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Emails That Get Women Hooked
Posted by: | CommentsGuys are always trying to come up with the “perfect email” to send to women on dating sites. It’s as if there are some “magic words” you can type in that will make any woman fall head over heels in lust with you…
Truth is, just like there’s no perfect pick-up line that works 100% of the time at the bars, there’s no perfect email that’s going to attract every girl online. But luckily, you don’t need perfect words to get women digging you online… Far from it!
In fact, most women respond better to simple, mildly humorous, and brief emails. The type of notes that you should (with a little practice) be able to whip off without hardly any thought whatsoever!
Let me explain the psychology behind this…
Women are instinctively drawn to men of “high value” who have a lot of options for female companionship. Likewise, they are turned off by needy guys who try hard for female validation, and never seem to get any.
So, trying hard to have the “perfect words” or writing an amazingly fascinating email is a bad, bad, bad, extremely counterproductive idea, because it reeks of desperation.
Think about it, if you where a cool stud, the kind of guy most women actually want to date, would you need to write intricate emails to get their attention? Hell no!
Instead, you’d write a short but unique emails and leave it at that. You’d let your inherent awesomeness speak for itself, and if some girl online couldn’t pick up on it, well, that’s her loss and some other fine young ladies gain.
So, if you want women to respond to your emails, here’s what you do…
Get a good picture of yourself, write a profile that shows you are a fun, masculine guy, whose got his life together, and then send a BRIEF note. Read her profile, pick out something specific in it, and then make a humorous or interesting comment about it. Then, give her a call to action. This could mean asking her a question you want her to respond to, or asking for her phone number.
However, I prefer to go for the gold and ask for the date right there in the first email. It’s emails like this that show women you’ve got a pair, and that, is what hooks ‘em!
Things Women Do To Test You – Congruence Tests
Posted by: | CommentsWhen a woman starts to feel the slightest interest in you as a man, she will start to test you. This testing will intensify during the attraction phase and will diminish throughout the other stages. However, it will never turn off. Some women test more than others, but testing goes on, even past seduction during a long term relationship.
If you pass these tests a woman’s attraction will go off the charts, but if you fail to meet demands her attraction will extinguish. This is why it is very important to understand the nature of these tests.
One thing that should become clear is that these tests come very naturally among girls and that it is normal for a woman to test the man if she is about to sleep with him. She wants to determine is he is of high social status or is he pretending to be. Her emotional circuitry does not understand that she may not be having a baby with you. Modern contraception is relatively new to the human race and it does not aect reproductive instincts. They come up with these tests unconsciously – women are not in any form mean or evil or anything of that sort in testing you.
You should also be very happy to notice these tests, because they mean that she is interested in you. On the other hand, if a woman doesn’t test much it doesn’t mean that she isn’t attracted to you, it just happens that, for whatever reason, she doesn’t do it as oftenas other women. Also, women in their fertile days of the month tend to be more open to sexual invitations, and tend to screen men much more than normally.
Types of tests
A girl will try to test if any of the traits you are displaying are real. Metaphorically
speaking, she will pull your hair to see whether you are wearing a wig or not. She may test in any way she feels, but most of the time she will just tease you and provoke you to see if you react. If so, then to what extent. She will be especially screening for any negative emotional reactions.
How to respond to congruence tests:
a) Do not respond Ignore them. Talk about something else.
b) Respond: “Yes”, “Of-course” and move on.
c) Tell her what she is trying to do. “I see what youre doing there… trying to tease
me. Nice try.”
d) Answer with something irrational. “But of course Money penny”, “one plus one
equals three. Everybody knows that”, or, “I do not speak Chinese.”
e) You can out frame her by finding something clever to answer back. This looks
impressive, but remember that the less energy you consume for your answers the
better it becomes for the long run. Less is more. For more details look here.
writing to a potential date
Posted by: | CommentsWriting that one email that catches the eye of Mr or Mrs right has always been a difficult and sometimes nerve wrecking experience, until now. I have been playing the singles online game for at least 5-6 yrs now. My days are over since I met my wife online but that doesn’t mean that I can’t pass on my years of knowledge to you. By the time you have finished reading this article you will know exactly what it takes to catch the eye of the one person you want the most.
Email people whose profiles interest you. When you are successful with someone you’ve met, great. If not, don’t despair; thousands of new People are posted every week on dating sites. Even if you have success with one, keep sending emails out and corresponding with several people at the same time. Until you are in a committed relationship, you should always keep your options open.
Creating good first impressions: When it comes to writing that first email, tentatively putting your heart out on the line, many of us get the online equivalent of dry mouth — or even worse, we say things better said down the line out of nervousness. How do you judge the line between being friendly and over-anxious?
Experiment; find a style that works for you. Use the subject line like a newspaper headline, proofread, and be creative, honest and positive. Avoid anything canned or trite.
Pick-up lines don’t work online, and you will want make a good first impression, or get a response using one. Firstly your emails should always be individually written and work best when conversational in style. Members can tell when someone is sending a cut and paste of the same thing to everyone. It’s usually all about them and says nothing about you, or what they liked about your profile.
Reference something about the recipient’s profile. There has to be something said that interested you? Ask questions and include some brief information about yourself. What interested you about her/his profile? What common interests do you both share.
It’s okay to flirt and tease a little during your first contact, but keep it light and friendly. Don’t write anything about sex, using any sex related words, or talk about how you are their perfect match or soul mate. You are getting to know a perfect stranger. Again, keep it light and friendly…. as if you were meeting a new colleague that is works with you.
If the response doesn’t convey the right message, you may not hear anything back from him/her. Remember you probably aren’t the only one that liked him/her. Your response can be one of many. Make what you say stand out. Give him/her reason to write back. Ask questions, and offer to answer questions. This is your big chance to get to know more about each other.
By now you should have a really strong grounding for what it takes to get your email noticed or replied to. These principles do work, I know cause I am now a very happily married man to an amazing women. No tricks, No games just straight out winning tactics
Mary is Mine, Thanks to on Line Dating
Posted by: | CommentsRecap: the girl I’ve had a crush on since high school in on line dating and I just messaged her.
Within two hours, she responded to my message, “wow, you’re looking really good Danny! It’s been what? Eight years since I’ve seen you?! You’ve really filled out, I see you’re still leaving at home, maybe you want to get a drink? I’ll be in town this weekend, call me!” my jaw hit the floor… Mary, my secret crush wants to get a drink… and told me I looked good! I think I jumped right out of my seat.
When we met up at star bucks we chatted about how ironic it was that we ha both been on line dating. I told her that I had always had a crush on her and how surprised I was that she even knew who I was on the on line dating site. She snickered and told me she had always thought I was cute.
This week we will be having our 6th date!! 6th!!!! We’re done with the on line dating stuff it’s totally physical now. I can’t believe I’m actually dating Mary! She is the culmination of everything I’ve ever wanted in a woman. I dreamed that I would some day kiss her soft cheeks… and now I can! It’s amazing! I’ve never felt like this. On line dating has completely restored my faith in love. I know I’ve sort of dragged this story out, but I feel really special right now, thanks to on line dating I’m with my dream girl and I couldn’t be happier. I’ll leave an update in a month or so to let you all know how Mary and I are doing. To anyone else out there in the same situation as I was; check those on line dating sites!
