Archive for Dating Tips
Things Women Do To Test You – Congruence Tests
Posted by: | CommentsWhen a woman starts to feel the slightest interest in you as a man, she will start to test you. This testing will intensify during the attraction phase and will diminish throughout the other stages. However, it will never turn off. Some women test more than others, but testing goes on, even past seduction during a long term relationship.
If you pass these tests a woman’s attraction will go off the charts, but if you fail to meet demands her attraction will extinguish. This is why it is very important to understand the nature of these tests.
One thing that should become clear is that these tests come very naturally among girls and that it is normal for a woman to test the man if she is about to sleep with him. She wants to determine is he is of high social status or is he pretending to be. Her emotional circuitry does not understand that she may not be having a baby with you. Modern contraception is relatively new to the human race and it does not aect reproductive instincts. They come up with these tests unconsciously – women are not in any form mean or evil or anything of that sort in testing you.
You should also be very happy to notice these tests, because they mean that she is interested in you. On the other hand, if a woman doesn’t test much it doesn’t mean that she isn’t attracted to you, it just happens that, for whatever reason, she doesn’t do it as oftenas other women. Also, women in their fertile days of the month tend to be more open to sexual invitations, and tend to screen men much more than normally.
Types of tests
A girl will try to test if any of the traits you are displaying are real. Metaphorically
speaking, she will pull your hair to see whether you are wearing a wig or not. She may test in any way she feels, but most of the time she will just tease you and provoke you to see if you react. If so, then to what extent. She will be especially screening for any negative emotional reactions.
How to respond to congruence tests:
a) Do not respond Ignore them. Talk about something else.
b) Respond: “Yes”, “Of-course” and move on.
c) Tell her what she is trying to do. “I see what youre doing there… trying to tease
me. Nice try.”
d) Answer with something irrational. “But of course Money penny”, “one plus one
equals three. Everybody knows that”, or, “I do not speak Chinese.”
e) You can out frame her by finding something clever to answer back. This looks
impressive, but remember that the less energy you consume for your answers the
better it becomes for the long run. Less is more. For more details look here.
Writing to a Potential Date
Posted by: | CommentsWriting that one email that catches the eye of Mr or Mrs right has always been a difficult and sometimes nerve wrecking experience, until now. I have been playing the singles online game for at least 5-6 yrs now. My days are over since I met my wife online but that doesn’t mean that I can’t pass on my years of knowledge to you. By the time you have finished reading this article you will know exactly what it takes to catch the eye of the one person you want the most.
Email people whose profiles interest you. When you are successful with someone you’ve met, great. If not, don’t despair; thousands of new People are posted every week on dating sites. Even if you have success with one, keep sending emails out and corresponding with several people at the same time. Until you are in a committed relationship, you should always keep your options open.
Creating good first impressions: When it comes to writing that first email, tentatively putting your heart out on the line, many of us get the online equivalent of dry mouth — or even worse, we say things better said down the line out of nervousness. How do you judge the line between being friendly and over-anxious?
Experiment; find a style that works for you. Use the subject line like a newspaper headline, proofread, and be creative, honest and positive. Avoid anything canned or trite.
Pick-up lines don’t work online, and you will want make a good first impression, or get a response using one. Firstly your emails should always be individually written and work best when conversational in style. Members can tell when someone is sending a cut and paste of the same thing to everyone. It’s usually all about them and says nothing about you, or what they liked about your profile.
Reference something about the recipient’s profile. There has to be something said that interested you? Ask questions and include some brief information about yourself. What interested you about her/his profile? What common interests do you both share.
It’s okay to flirt and tease a little during your first contact, but keep it light and friendly. Don’t write anything about sex, using any sex related words, or talk about how you are their perfect match or soul mate. You are getting to know a perfect stranger. Again, keep it light and friendly…. as if you were meeting a new colleague that is works with you.
If the response doesn’t convey the right message, you may not hear anything back from him/her. Remember you probably aren’t the only one that liked him/her. Your response can be one of many. Make what you say stand out. Give him/her reason to write back. Ask questions, and offer to answer questions. This is your big chance to get to know more about each other.
By now you should have a really strong grounding for what it takes to get your email noticed or replied to. These principles do work, I know cause I am now a very happily married man to an amazing women. No tricks, No games just straight out winning tactics
Are First Impressions Important in Pickup and Seduction?
Posted by: | CommentsAs a rule of thumb, women make decisions whether they like you or not within the first minutes. If a woman has decided that she is not attracted to you, no amount of effort is going to change her mind. Many men have wasted time and energy by ignoring this simple reality of having fallen into the Lets Just Be Friends zone.
All in all, there is nothing you can do to change her mind. Unless… you change yourself 
Should you be able to leave your old loser habits behind and become a man, she won’t be able to hold on to her old beliefs about you. Now that you’re different and can make her feel different, present yourself to her anew and watch the fireworks
This however does not revoke the importance of a first impression. Women are used to making up their minds (about you-know-what) according to their first impressions so changing their minds about it will be somewhat of a paradigm shift. You can make it happen, but with a considerably more effort on your part than if you had left the right impression on her the first time around (which she would have returned by leaving the right kind of impressions on you – her claw-marks on your back).
For most men, there is nothing they can do to improve their attractiveness, because they think that either you are born with it or not. For the professional seducer however, there is another reality: he knows which attraction switches to flip and which one not.
You Can Overcome Fear of Rejection
Posted by: | CommentsDating can be a daunting pastime. For some it is a wonderful game, full of interest and intrigue, whilst for others is an embarrassing and awkward nightmare. You start asking yourself what on earth you are going to say, whether to try a new chat up line or to talk about the weather and questioning how you look or what you should wear and how to get past go in this dating arena.
The fear of making a fool of yourself, or being embarrassed or openly rebuffed can sometimes be enough to make you turn tail and retreat at a rapid pace. It is this anticipatory anxiety which causes all of the issues as opposed to what actually happens when in the dating situation.
We all, I believe, know that not everyone we are attracted to will be attracted to us in return. We also know that the timing may be wrong; that other person may already be in a relationship and therefore not free to respond to your approaches.
This does not mean that you are being rejected; it is simply that the timing isn’t right. But the person who is afraid of being rejected will tend to believe that this is what has happened; the tendency is to judge what happens from one’s own perspective instead of taking a step back and viewing it from a different angle.
We tend to see what we expect to see. If you are afraid of rejection you will expect it and see it even when it’s not really there. But once you overcome fear of rejection, you see things from a different perspective; you recognize that you are attractive and desirable to others, and no longer interpret circumstances as a pattern of rejection. Dating should be fun; it should be interesting, exciting and easy.
Once you overcome fear of rejection you see your situation with the eyes of curiosity and positive anticipation. You look forward to seeing who you might meet, to finding out more about them and ascertaining what you have in common. You enjoy meeting new people, both as friends and as potential material for a more serious relationship. Either way, it’s fun. Even when you meet people who you do not have anything much in common with, you can, when you are no longer afraid of rejection, enjoy the fact that you are all unique and individual; you can enjoy each other’s differences.
To overcome fear of rejection you have to learn to step back and to see things from a different angle. You have to learn to change your inner expectations. Hypnosis is extremely useful in executing this task as hypnosis provides access to the inner workings of your mind. With hypnosis you can build your confidence and feel completely at ease when flirting with potential play mates.
Roseanna Leaton, specialist in hypnosis downloads for dating confidence and relationship issues.
